Tuesday, March 16, 2010

Romance, Realism and perhaps...Expectations...

As a little girl my role model was Cinderella. Not because she was kind at heart, talented or beautiful but because she had found ‘Prince Charming’ who bought her a pair of glass slippers. (I guess I was clear about my materialistic approach to love even as a child of 9.)

By 28 the glass slippers had taken many forms: red roses, exquisite Swiss chocolates, exotic wine and dine, Ralph Lauren hand bags, Diana Ferrari Shoes and Swaroski crystals…as gifts I bought myself all in the name of love! Yes, by 28 I have come in terms with reality and have learnt to accept that ‘Prince Charming’ existed only within the 70mm screen of Walt Disney productions and that the pair of glass slippers are just a credit card swipe away.

Does that mean that after all those heart aches and enduring disappointments I have had with love and relationships I have become this male bashing female chauvinist who doesn’t believe in love?

Ofcourse not!!!

Although the 28 year old career focused fun loving 'big girl' in me has no realistic expectations or hopes to meet a ‘Prince Charming’ the little girl in me still dreams of the blaze of romance in red roses and diamond rings (come on…its alright to get a bit materialistic)!!!

I do miss ‘Prince Charming’ especially on the 30th of every month when I sit in front of my laptop with the i-banking window open clicking the ‘Bills Pay’ section. Those are moments when I wish I could do with a sexist traditional Indian husband whose belief system reverberates with ‘Man is the bread winner of the family and hence the head of the family’

Helen Rowland once said, "When you see what some girls marry, you realise how they must hate to work for a living."

To all you Cinderellas' out there… “Relationship is not the answer…it’s the question…YES is the answer!”




2 comments:

  1. To me, cinderella was a strong person who overcame her circumstances, to not JUST find her prince chalming, but to improve her life in general.
    I recently took steps to fulfilling a dream of painting, after my personal circumstances took a wrong term though fire, and like cinderella, i have emerged a better person. I hope you have your cinderalla moment, when you really need it.

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  2. Hi Caroline

    Thank you for reading through the blog and posting your view. Your time and opinion was very valuable.

    I am completely with you on the 'Cinderella Moment' Such moments in my life have made me both stronger and on occasions a wee bit wiser too...

    One of my prime focus on starting this blog site was to share all those moments experienced by me and those moments I have had a chance hold hands and experience with those dear to me.

    It would be wonderful if you would like to share your's too...It is experiences like those that keep the faith in both love and life alive...

    Thank you once again for your time and sharing your views.

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